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A Partner in Birth

The Single Mother's Guide to Choosing a Birthing Coach

By Kelly Burgess

The birth of your child is the most important thing you can share with anyone. But although it was rough on you, it wasn't a tiptoe through the tulips for your coach, either. Chances are that he or she spent many hours preparing and then a long stretch in the birthing room being at your beck and call.

How do you thank someone for such dedication? Of course, just knowing they helped you through a difficult time is probably thanks enough, but if you'd like to give them something a little more memorable, here are a few ideas.

1. A day at a spa. They pampered you, now you return the favor.
2. A beautifully framed picture of them with the baby. They'll remember the miracle of the baby's birth every time they look at it.
3. A birth-themed sculpture, such as Birthing Goddess from the Birth Art Marketplace. They have amazing gifts for any birth partner.
4. Time with you. Get a sitter, if possible, and take your birth coach out for a nice lunch or dinner and some quiet conversation. Going for afternoon tea is also a nice idea. If you can't get a sitter, consider a nice picnic at the park with food from a local restaurant.
5. A gift certificate for your birthing coach's favorite store. This is an easy one, but pair it with something nice only you know your birthing partner likes.