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Alone

Facing an Unexpected Pregnancy Without a Partner

By Deborah C. Harding

At the time Cindi became pregnant, there were few support groups in existence. She says unmarried pregnant women today have it a little better because unwed mothers are more tolerated now and there is more support, both financial and emotional.

Cindi also suggests that pregnant women spend the full nine months preparing. "Take advantage of parenting classes. Learn how to change a diaper...and bathe a baby. Learn all you can before the baby comes. Nothing can really prepare you for the trials of feedings, lack of sleep and illness. These are just things you have to learn to deal with."

Cindi says the best tip she can give to unwed mothers is, "Surround yourself with people you can trust. People from your church, your family, state and county agencies, and most important, friends. Let these people help you. You can't do it all by yourself."

Many public and private agencies lend support before and after the baby is born. Look in your telephone directory under "pregnancy" and you will usually find several numbers. Don't be afraid to contact them. It will probably be the best thing you can do for yourself and your child.

Pregnancy without a partner is difficult -- but certainly not as impossible as it might feel in the beginning when the fear of the unknown can be overwhelming. But surrounding yourself with supportive relatives, friends and helpful agencies will help the transition into motherhood.

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