When many women her age are anticipating the birth of their first grandchild,
California resident Arceli Keh, age 63, gave birth for the first time in 1997
to a daughter named Cynthia. The Associated Press reported that Keh and her husband,
Isagani, a carpenter, spent at least $50,000 on in vitro fertilization treatments
that eventually led to Cynthia's conception and birth. "I wasn't trying to make
history," Keh told The Express, a British newspaper. "I just wanted a baby."
Married for 16 years, the Kehs – who emigrated from the Philippines – have no other children. As reported in The Express, the couple lives in Highland, Calif., 60 miles east of Los Angeles. "We are far from wealthy," Keh says. "We are working people. I only retired to have my baby."
Aside from the medical issues surrounding giving birth later, there are practical ones. |
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The Kehs utilized the University of Southern California's Program for Assisted Reproduction, which allows women up to age 55 to participate. Keh hid her age until she was 13 weeks pregnant. "Our age doesn't matter," she said. "We feel young at heart and we love our child. Isn't that what counts?"
That, it seems, depends on who you ask. Cristina L.H. Traina, assistant professor of religious ethics at Northwestern University, wrote in the Chicago Tribune: "Wanting a baby is essential, but is it enough? In the field of ethics, it matters deeply why we want something. We must be sensitive to the grief that follows on the disappointment of an intense wish to conceive. Still, contemporary philosophers remind us to ask whether, when we are 'desperate' to be pregnant, we have healthy reasons."
I sympathize with these people in their desire for a biological child. I have one, and I love it. However, women have a fertility window for a reason. Men, not so much. A woman who gives birth after 40 is showing little regard for her child's health and well-being, just her desire to have a baby. This is selfish. I don't care how many kids there are who "turn out okay" when there are plenty more who don't.
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