We're What?

Most of the time married couples welcome a new baby into their lives. But occasionally it happens at an inconvenient time – they wanted more alone time before starting a family or already had children and didn't plan on having more. So what's a couple to do? Is it possible to accept the pregnancy and make it a happy one? Absolutely!

Surprise! The pregnancy test came back positive. Now what? Two experts offer the same advice: Take a deep breath.

Jennie Joseph, a licensed midwife and clinical director of The Birth Place in Winter Garden, Fla., suggests parents resolve – as of this moment – to focus on going forward. "Looking back, recriminations, blaming and so on, create negativity," she says. While she admits it's natural to want to figure out what happened to create this unexpected turn of events, she stresses that the most important approach to any pregnancy is to agree to work as a team and to stay focused on the job at hand – having a healthy baby.

For Jennifer Hans and her husband from Fort Wayne, Ind., her third pregnancy was a huge surprise. "I already had a 2-year-old and 6-month-old twins," Hans says. "My husband and I both felt that our family was complete. Needless to say, we were caught quite off guard when we discovered there was going to be another addition to our family."

Hans admits that knowing what to do first wasn't easy. "To be honest, there were a lot of tears in the beginning," she says. "We were still rather overwhelmed with the process of caring for newborn twins, and the idea of adding another baby was quite unsettling."

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