Divorce or Breakups During Pregnancy

Hi,

I am new to this site (literally signed up a few mins ago).
Let me tell you a bit about me. My name is Laura; I am 24 years old and have a eight month old daughter called Summer (and live in the UK).

When I found out I was pregnant I was living with my boyfriend. When I told him, to say he wasn't happy was an understatement. In the end we split up. I was living in another part of the country from where I was from (six-hours away) so had to leave our apartment, my job - and move back with my parents. I was four months pregnant, homeless, and jobless and in another part of the country having to pick myself up and start again.

Throughout my pregnancy he kept drifting back and fourth, telling me he wanted to know only to then let me down again a week down the line. I ended up going through the whole pregnancy alone, until about 3 weeks before my due date when he came back.
The way I kept sane through my pregnancy was by keeping a diary. I have since decided to turn it into a book - to try and help other girls that are in the same situation.

The book will be out in May, I am going to create a website in about a month too, where I am hoping to put a forum where all girls in the same situation can have a chat. Because for me that was the biggest problem. I didn%u2019t feel like there was anyone out there in the same situation. Everywhere I looked it was about %u2018couples%u2019, and the %u2018three of you,%u2019 nothing for single girls; and I felt so alone. In the end I started reading fictional novels (like nine months by Sarah Ball), but at the back of my mind I knew it wasn%u2019t real. So that%u2019s why I have decided to publish my diary (a bit daring I know but if it helps).

Let me know if you want any info on it or if you just want a chat. I have created a new website with a forum for girls to share their stories with other girls. It%u2019s early days but I%u2019m really hoping it will do well once the book is out. xx
www.Laurapauley.com
My Summer Bump

When I discovered I was pregnant I quickly found myself single, homeless and jobless.
This book is my diary. An honest and personal account of everything I went through from the moment I discovered I was pregnant, to being dumped and having to move half way across the country.
It shows what it%u2019s like to go through a pregnancy alone. The pain that you suddenly feel when something pregnancy-related speaks of the fairytale couple, that your not part of, is like a different kind of pain to any other. You feel as though you did something wrong.
To go to the appointments, scans, antenatal classes, buy and make equipment, set up a new home and life for just you and your baby; to have to think of names, birthing partners, and make all the decisions yourself, to have no one to go out at 1am to get you ice cream, because that is what you happen to be craving.
You will see an intimate look at the relationship with the father, how he reacted, why he reacted, and how that one person%u2019s actions can manipulate power over you and turn you into a different person.
This book will want to make you scream, laugh, and cry at the page.
In a diary account, will the father come back? Or more importantly, as I grow and come to terms with being a single mother, will I let him?
If you are going through a pregnancy alone, if you are pregnant but in a relationship, if you are not pregnant but want to follow a story of a girl who finds herself pregnant, dumped, then homeless, to have to then pick herself up and start again; you will want to read this book. It has something for everyone.

I too am now almost 6 months pregnant, hiding it, denying it, finding out what legal options I have, and feeling very afraid for when the father does find out. He was abusive in our short relationship, the reason for my getting out-- and while I had taken precautions not to become pregnant-- here I am. I have older daughters who fear for if he was to come back around, and now we are faced with do we keep this little person who didn't make the choice to be part of all this mess, or look at adoption as a better way for this little person to get all they need. It is killing me. While my family is supportive-- everyone is swore to silence while I wad through the legal ramifications of his choices and keeping us safe. I feel like a teenage who should have known better, and yet I am an adult feeling very mixed emotions about be pregnant and carry a child with a person I don't ever care to have anything to do with ever again. At least this article helped me feel no so alone

I thought I was the only one going through this. I actually feel a little better after readying this article because I to hid the pregnancy for awhile. Now I'm 6 months and I'm starting to show, or should I say I'm starting to let myself show. I'm so hurt... Our first daughter he left me at 6 months then came back when she was born and now again I'm 6 months and I can't get him to understand how he needs to change. I google the book they recommend hopefully I can get past this. I'm about to go submit my petition for Divorce.

My husband of 3.5 years and I can't get along. Think differently about everything and fight all the time. I think we may get a divorce... I am so sad. I love this man and am 3 months pregnant. How do I do this? How do I do this without hurting this baby with all my emotions and stress? Anyone, can you help???

Iam currently 3months pregnant. I was in a 3yr relationship with someone who I had known for a long period of time. On January 22, 2010 my boyfriend said to me, "I gave us some thought and I think its "Best" if we seprate". He said that he didn't know if he was ready to be a family man or be with me long-term. He wanted to be with other females, he replied when I asked, "Why now?" I cried so hard for him asking why over and over. I had to realize that I have to move and let him be with other females.