"Here's to the bride and groom! May they make me the proudest grandfather on earth."

The beginning of her father's toast will forever stay in Heather Kent's* mind. "It was on our wedding day at the supper," she says. "Why did he say that? I never told anyone I was pregnant – I wasn't. In fact, after being together for four years, Paul and I had only decided to get married. We never mentioned children."

Michelle Swanson* understands Kent's confusion. "For 13 years, we just politely told my parents, 'Not yet' or 'We're not ready' – in other words, 'Butt out' – while I seethed at their colossal nerve," she says. "By the time I finally did get pregnant, I was so ticked off at my mother for years of nagging that I didn't tell her until my 6th month."

Many couples get married and have never thought of whether they'll become parents, but well-meaning friends and family push the subject from day one. If you and your spouse intend to have children right away, it won't affect you so much. Eventually, you might feel the pressure or anxiousness from them through their subtle hints.

Content on this site is not a substitute for professional medical or healthcare advice, diagnosis or treatment, and may not be used for such purposes. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical question or condition. Reliance on information presented on this site is at your own risk. This site contains the opinions and views of other users. Given the interactive nature of this site, we cannot endorse, guarantee, or be responsible for the accuracy, efficacy, or veracity of any content generated by our users.