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December 27, 2002
23 wks 2 days
Well as the tagline says, the Christmas hustle and bustle is over,or at least almost.
On the baby front things are going really well. This little guy is getting funner and funner. And is so active.
It is getting more difficult for me to be on my feet for any real length of time.
Jimmy and I went shopping for a couple of hours Saturday night and I ended up almost in tears I was in so much pain. We had to find a bench and sit for a little while for me to even be able to stand and walk out of the mall. And, I have a high pain tolerance, but it felt like someone was cutting my under belly and it was also kind of burning.
I guess this is the pain the m/w warned me about and the need to get a support girdle. I also feel like the baby is going to fall out after I have been on my feet for a couple of hours. I have alot of pressure on my cervix. This really concerns me since they questioned my cervix 3 weeks ago. This is similar to things I felt with my 2nd child, and I ended up on bedrest and had him early.
My m/w is on vacation again next week so I will have a sub. She had said she wanted to check my cervix again in a couple of weeks, but if not then she definatley wanted to check it at my 28 wk appt. I just pray my body holds up and keeps this little guy in for quite a while yet.
Christmas:
As I posted last time, this was the 1st Christmas that I haven't had my children with me. Well, this morning at 1:00 am I finally got them back home. My ex was supposed to meet us yesterday morning back in N.C. for us to get the kids. Well, by Christmas day he had found out that we would be coming to Ohio for our big Family Gift exchange this weekend.Because of this he decided I was stupid (his words) to want to get the kids back before then. I had explained to him that we needed to be able to do our Gift opening at our house before doing the one up there because the children would be getting things to go with the things santa and my husband and I had gotten them. If they got the other gifts first,it would ruin the suprise, or they would wonder why they got the thing they got and nothing to go with it.
If that wasn't enough, I found out the day before Christmas that their father really didn't have vacation time for while they were up there. He had left them 3 of the 4 days with someone while he went to work. Luckily tuesday he didn't have anyone to watch them and had to bite the bullet and call my mom and ask her to watch them for him. I know that just had to kill him to have to do that. I guess I should tell you, he constantly talks badly about my mom, and what makes it worse, is that she has made so many sacrifices and done things for us that he should have, over the years, even let him stay there, and he is so hateful. That is, until he really needs something and has to crawl to her and ask. She was really glad to do it, and loved being able to spend the whole day with the kids. I'm glad for that, at least they got to spend the day with someone that loves them dearly.(This year has been hard for her also, it is the first yr she hasn't had us or my sister there.)
I had told him he needed to have the kids to meet us, really meet my husband because I had to work and he was able to take the day off, by 12 or 1:00 the latest, so they could be back by the time I got home from work. That way we could have dinner and open gifts at a decent time, since both my husband and I were supposed to work today and we will be leaving tonight to go back to Ohio.
I know some of you maybe siding with my ex at this point, saying yes it wasn't too smart to have him bring them back. But, not only is it the court order that says, but the fact that he didn't spend the time with them that he had. And the kids wanted to come home and see what they got for christmas. He did, for the 1st time in 4 yrs buy them a few things for Christmas, but they knew they would have plenty of things at our house. He never does much with them anyway and they were ready to come home. In fact when I finally got someone to answer the phone up there yesterday my oldest son was pretty upset that they weren't getting to come home like they were supposed to.
After all of this, my husband finally, I think anyway, understands why I say we just can't work with my ex. You do something to be nice to him or help him out, and he doesn't appreciate it at all. Just like us driving late at night last friday to meet him instead of making him wait until Saturday like we were supposed to. He is just totally selfish and doesn't think of what he does to the children. I just wish he would grow up and consider the kids for once instead of himself.
So, about 1:15 this morning we started our gift opening celebration. I must say, this was about the most greatful my children have ever been during the opening of gifts. We pretty much so got a thank you for every gift they opened and we even got several hugs during the process. Needless to say, they were pretty happy with their treasures and even said it was definately worth the ride back to be able to open them.
Since we didn't get to bed until after 4 am, my husband ended up taking another day off work, so the kids could be able to stay home and get to play with their new gifts. We did put together 2 things for each of them or they did, last night and they got to play a little before having to go to bed. I actually got to bed around 4 am and since my husband decided to stay home today, he stayed up and got the kids a snack and then got them ready and in bed.
For someone that is not supposed to get upset or stressed, the last few days sure weren't good. Also, 6 am came way to early this morning. So mush for getting 8 hrs of sleep! ha, ha.
I must say, when you are used to having your children for Christmas and also having family around, things sure are different when you don't.
It really was nice getting to spend the whole day Christmas with my husband, but it just didn't seem like Christmas. Dec. 25th was definately the Lords birthday, but there definately wasn't anything commercial about that day for us this year. I have to tell you, it is kind of funny now, but it sure wasn't then. I hate admit it, but we didn't even have a Christmas dinner. With all the practices at church for the Christmas eve service, work, and trying to finish up the shopping I couldn't get done with Jimmy being gone so much the last month and a half, I never made it to the grocery store to buy a ham or turkey to fix. All of the stores were closed by 6pm Christmas eve when I realized I didn't have anything for a traditional dinner. I have always gone to a family get together and dinner on Christmas day and guess I really hadn't thought about having to get the fixins.
I appologized to my husband for not having a very special 1st married Christmas together. I finally had that 1st opportunity and couldn't get it right. It really seemed horrible.
Well, if any of you have hung in here, thank-you for listening to my ranting and complaining. I shall close for now since you have been tortured enough this entry.
I hope every one had a wonderful Christmas or whatever you celebrate and hope that everyone has a safe and happy new year.
God bless,
Bridgett and baby boy (hopefully we can start seriously concidering a name before long)
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